I stopped reading for the longest time, I don’t know why or when I stopped, I just did. I can’t remember what made me want to stop, I just didn’t have the motivation for it anymore. I couldn’t sit still and get into a book like I used to and I missed that. I never read. I keep my books next to my bed, I always have, so that if I ever want to read I can always just grab one and start reading and most nights, I just laid there and stared at them. I didn’t read anymore, I didn’t need them anymore. But I had no idea why.
Soon after I stopped reading, I stopped writing too. I stopped writing my poetry and my short stories and my weird, emotional, diary sort of writings that I kept on my laptop. I shut all of it off and I just stopped. But I didn’t want to stop writing, I love writing. It’s my hobby, it’s my outlet, it’s what I want to do but I couldn’t do it any more. For the longest time, I had writers block. Every time I tried to write something, I’d just stare blankly at my wordpad or my notepad I had sat in front of me.The people who really know me know that…if I’m using a pen and paper to write, I’m trying to get over writers block. It’s my go to for when I need to write and I haven’t been able to, and it usually does help. But in this case, it didn’t.
I got more and more miserable by the day. I wasn’t reading, I wasn’t writing, I wasn’t talking or listening or caring. I just shut down emotionally. I stopped being a friend, a sister, a daughter, a grand-daughter, a person. I just basically stopped living and I didn’t see how bad I had gotten. I didn’t know what was wrong with me, why couldn’t I write? Why couldn’t I talk to anyone? Why couldn’t I just be the person from a few months ago, a girl who read and wrote and was happy just to do those two things. What was wrong with me?
I didn’t realise how important it was, reading. I’ve always loved it, half of the presents I get for special occasions are books because people know that I love them and I will read them. I didn’t know that if I stopped, everything else would too. I’ve loved writing for the longest time, I really have but reading came first and I didn’t realise that I needed it to be able to write. I didn’t realise that by stopping that, I wouldn’t be able to write anymore. I felt broken and sad and alone and I couldn’t understand why and I didn’t know how it was possible. How do I feel broken from not reading? How do I feel sad from not reading? How do I feel alone from not reading? Why was it such a big part of my life that it could create such a huge hole when it was gone? I don’t think I realised that the books I read, the books we all read have an impact on us. If we’re writers, they teach us to write better. Write different worlds, write different characters, develop those characters, develop the world around them. If we’re not they teach us to understand the world, to empathise with people, to understand them. It teaches us to grasp at opportunities, to learn from mistakes and to move forward. To live how we want to live. Maybe it isn’t this way for everyone, but for me – Books are the lens I need to understand the world we live in.
As a writer, when I stopped reading, I couldn’t understand the world anymore. I couldn’t put the thoughts and feelings I was experiencing into words and I couldn’t understand people, who they were, what they were doing, the actions I saw and the things I experienced, I didn’t know how to describe them. I needed to read again, I needed to go through that experience again. I needed to feel the way I did when I first connected with a book, the way I felt when a book made me so angry I chucked across the room or when a character that I had fallen in love with dies and I cry and soak my book. I needed those feelings again, so I picked up a book and I just started to read.
It doesn’t matter which book I read, but I’ve already finished and moved onto another and now I wont stop again. I needed all of this to be able to write and now I have it. And now I’m writing again. And now I feel happier again.
I’m not broken or sad or alone, not just a book changed how I felt but I wasn’t completely okay until I started reading again. I love to read and I need it in my life, without it I just stopped functioning. It took away so much that I wasn’t expecting. I won’t make that mistake again and I hope no one else does either. We all underestimate the importance of reading, the enjoyment and fulfillment we get out of it. Once it goes away, it leaves a hole. Don’t give it up, never give it up.
“No two persons ever read the same book”
-Edward Wilson